Red Flags, He’s Not The One!

It’s 100% ok to want to be in a relationship, but we must always pay attention to the red flags! A lot of guys aren’t the one, but we give them a pass because they look good, have money, or claim to love the lord, but looks, paper, and talk might appear to be good, but in some cases, he’s not the one! When I think about “he’s not the one,” I think about my sister telling me that multiple times after I tell her about a new guy that is interested in me. If you know my sister, then you know that she is protecting me from anyone that is a huge warning sign. It’s crazy how even with the distance she can spot out all the red flags!

So what are some of the red flags that he’s not the one? I’ve included a few in this blog that might be helpful to you.

He doesn’t find interest in leading you closer to God.

Some guys will appear as if they know God, but always pay attention to their actions. A guy can say that he loves the Lord, but can he even hold you a full conversation talking about God without being so quick to change the subject? Also, if he knows your love for God, he shouldn’t be leading you to sin and always tempting you. A man that is into you will respect your boundaries and relationship with God. If you feel as if you’re going backward talking to or dating a guy then he’s not helping you grow, he’s slowing you down!

He always wants to hang out at night.

If I can keep it real with you, a man should want to show you off and not keep you hidden. Or, maybe he wants to be with you late at night to try and get your goodies! YOU ARE NOT A BOOTY CALL. I’m sorry, not sorry, but it’s a red flag if he always wants to chill at night and he can’t even take you out or meet you during the day. Never lower your standards and settle with being his night time thrill.

He’s always busy!

If a man is always busy, he’s probably balancing multiple things. I firmly believe that if a man is interested in you, he will make time. Also, let me add in communication! A man that is continually making up excuses to talk on the phone or text can be a significant warning sign and turn off. If communication is big to you, then he might not be the one for you, and that’s ok!

He doesn’t have respect for you.

If a guy is continually lying to you, entertaining other girls in front of you, and if he doesn’t realize your worth, then those are red flags. Why entertain someone that’s continually lying to you? A man that likes you/ wants to be with you wouldn’t be so easy to lie to you and shouldn’t lie to you at all. He loves attention constantly from other women? Always craving attention can indicate that he lacks self-confidence. If he wants you, then why does he continuously entertain other girls on the internet and in public. If he doesn’t realize your worth, then he has to go, because another man will! If you’re a queen and he treats you like your worthless, then he doesn’t respect you, and you should show him the exit door out your life!

He wants you to be the man.

He wants you to drive everywhere, pay for everything, and he can’t even open the door for you? Pause, those are all major red flags in my eyes. I feel like a man should be a man and not expect a woman to do everything. How is he going to lead you if he always depends on you? If you’re playing both roles while talking to or dating him, then you might need to step back and let go. In my opinion, you shouldn’t have to be the queen and king in a relationship!

Know your worth!

Queen know your worth and don’t lower yourself for any man. Don’t get so caught up into what appears to look good but your gut is warning you that he is not for your good! Ask God to give you discernment and pray before starting to date someone. God knows what’s best for you! Keep your eyes open, communication with God healthy, and don’t be afraid to admit HE’S NOT THE ONE!